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Raising awareness about issues related to domestic & dating violence

Stage 2: Is This an Abusive Relationship? July 7, 2010

This page explores whether or not the relationship that you are already in will become abusive—

Before relationships escalate into physical violence, abusers often exhibit certain behaviors which can predict serious abuse in the future.   If you can answer yes to any of the following questions, you may be in an abusive situation.

Does your partner:

1. Have a history of legal or discipline problems?

2. Insult you or call you names?

3. Have trouble controlling feelings or exhibit angry or depressive behavior?

4. Tell you what to wear, what to do, or how to act?

5. Manipulate you in order to get his or her way?

6. Prevent you from spending time with friends and family?

While all couples have their share of ups and downs, behaviors like these indicate a pattern of power and control by one person over another. So, what then does a healthy relationship look like?

In a survey of 540 University of North Carolina Chapel Hill students from the 2009-2010 school year done by the APPLES Program students told us what characteristics they looked for in a healthy relationship including:





-Continuance in friends and other individuals

-No abuse of any kind (physical, emotional, sexual or verbal)


For more  analysis of this survey, check back  later this summer.

If you’re concerned about your own relationship call FVPC’s 24 hour hotline at 919-929-7122 or toll free at 866-929-7122 to talk to an advocate.


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